Thursday, March 20, 2014

Having a few bad days is a good reminder….

Of why and what my goals are in my career life.


You know a few bad apples really do ruin the entire batch, sad but true. I work in the metal health field but it’s not the people we serve that cause the overwhelming amount of stress, it’s my co-workers. My doctors have advised me to leave the stressful environment for my own health and all agree I cannot carry a child while continuing to work here. The end was inevitable and is now very near. I have announced this will be my last year but I have not reviled when I am leaving. For now I will keep this date out.


It is too bad this has been allowed to continue, no one should be subjected to this type of environment. 


Friday, March 14, 2014

Focusing on the goals


—Part 1—A three part post

Stating goals and getting into the plan to achieve first goal.

Our major goals for 2014 are:

1—my last year working (financial preparedness)

2—preparing to become pregnant (emotional, financial and so on)

3—get married in a state that it is legal (for tax purposes)

4—final yr of home repairs (need vs. want)

First things first—getting our finances in order for both the pregnancy and one less income. I have a spread sheet with our budget and all its predictable variables.  We are looking at decreasing our expenses and increasing Duste’s income. Both very important!

Decrease expenses—always a goal of mine!
We have gone to great lengths to decrease our grocery expense. We are now spending no more than $25wk for the first 3wks of the month and no more than $200 the last week of each month. With comparative pricing Wal-Mart offers and wonderful apps available we are able to stretch every dollar. For the first 3wks of the month I rarely buy anything that we don’t have a price match for. When we do the big shopping trip we stock up on marked down meat, something our Wal-Mart does on Sunday Mornings, canned goods and other things we use throughout the month. (Oatmeal, cereal, almond milk and healthcare goods)

I also call the phone company and cable company to get introductory rates for their services. They will do this for a year at a time. (Once I get the higher bill I make a point to call again!) I typically save at least half if not more so it is well worth the time to call.

Credit Card Payments—yes, credit cards are the devil but sometimes you have to use them. Recently we had to replace both our laptop and tablet. I got an awesome deal picking one from the sale category and qualified for an allowance towards a tablet. With this awesome deal I got 18months same as cash when I used my Dell Account.  We decided to take advantage of this and I came up with a repayment plan so we would get it repaid well before we are charged any interest. Yay!! I love it when I can take advantage of these offers and they don’t take advantage of me!

I hate debt but when life happens it makes me feel better to have a spreadsheet and be more in control of these things hanging over my head! We will be back to being debt free at least by Sept15Th! However, we will still have a house payment. Although we did refinance for a 15yr loan we are making a goal of paying at least, if not more, one extra house payment a year when we get our tax refund. But, because of needing to make some home repairs we decided to wait until 2016 to start this.

By making all these changes and staying the course it will insure I will be able to stop working the end of this year. Paying down/off our debt will also help us qualify for financing when it comes time for me to get pregnant. (Yes, same sex couples have to go well above and beyond to have a child of their own)



Shew! 

Monday, March 3, 2014

Sweets for my Sweet!

Happy 35th Birthday to the perfect one made just for me!

We celebrated Duste’s birthday starting on Friday after work. We went out to dinner where we ordered two meals that she wanted and a dessert! (We usually split ONE meal) Saturday we had a Couple Spa Day—which included hydrotherapy, wine with fruit tray and an hour long massage. We followed that up with Chicago Dogs for lunch and a Big Fish sandwich for dinner. Sunday, her actual birthday, we enjoyed a snow day at home that started with present in bed. The rest of the day was spent watching funny movies she loves!

We spoil each other, it’s true, but if we don’t who will?


Since she has lost and has kept off, over 50lbs she was in serious need of some Tshirts. With my sense of humor and the help of talented people on Etsy, she got 3! She has been requesting a cozy for her coffee cup and the tablet I won a yr ago completely died a few weeks ago, talk about good timing, so it all worked out to a Very Happy Birthday Girl! 


We are so lucky to have each other—she’s my best friend and my soul mate. She makes me a better person! 


Friday, February 21, 2014

The Attic project is D.O.N.E.



Yay!! The biggest project by far has been the attic redo. Turning an unfinished space into 4 rooms was an amazing transformation!

We are now living in a 2 bedroom, 2 bath house with a formal dining room, separate laundry and den!

I can’t believe how much has changed in our little house since we moved in late 2008!


Only a few projects left!! 


The boys who hold my heart in their hands…


The Lauyans’ boys have my heart and they know it! Here are some pictures from last summer (2013)










Big Brother--
Keaton Michael is an amazing big brother. He isn’t gentle but he is very interested and hands on. He wants to help do anything you let him—feeding, changing, dressing, entertaining and so on. He is awesome! He will be starting Preschool this summer and is catching on fast to counting and picking out shapes/colors.  He is a tall 4yr old wearing 6t’s and size 13 shoes.

We, the aunts, are getting better at juggling two little boys and all the craziness that goes with it while trying to give each one the attention they deserve/need. I still do not want more than 1 child but maybe I will change my mind when/if I ever get better at managing time with these two! (I don’t think so but never say never, right.)



Little Brother--
Eli Joseph is growing crazy fast! He is a little over 7mo now and there is no trace of that tiny baby he once was in Riley Hospital. He is around 20lbs and wears size 18mo outfits.  He rolls over, sits up, babbles, has pretty good hand/eye coordination and is tolerating baby food. (Although he still prefers bottles) He is a light sleeper, something we never had to worry with when Keaton was a baby.

To just say I love these two boys doesn’t even come close to describing how I feel about them—it’s Endless, Pure, and Truly Unconditional love. The kind of love that was instant, not earned or worked for just IS and always will be.


A few more recent pictures….










Tax Time






This is a stressful time for same sex couples, those who live in states that do not recognized their union anyway. We have been through our fair share of accountants but finally I think we have found “the one”.

This marks year number two for her and the fact she agreed to do our taxes again says a lot! (Ha!)

We did get some good news—as of 2013 we can now file jointly on our federal, once we are married in a state that allows that. So the new goal is to get married…..again. This time in Illinois and a lot cheaper/faster! I am trying to figure out how we can get this done while on vacation in May. She said we can go back to 2012 once we have this done. She also said this will benefit us when Duste is the only one working and I doing the stay at home mom thing. This way she can claim me, our child and qualify to receive the Child Tax Credit. (woohoo!)

A Pagan Valentine’s Day—aka Lupercalia





This year we have decided to celebrate the Holidays the way they started—with Pagan traditions! February 15th is our “valentine’s day”. Of course we know Pagans are all about food and sex (hehe) which is exactly how we spent our weekend! We started the morning with small gifts. For lunch Duste made us heart shaped ham steaks, for dinner we had pasta with wine and we each made desserts for one another. She made me Angel Food cupcakes with cherries on top and I made her peanut butter chocolate cookie cake! That’s as much detail as I will go into!
 


We have also decided to create a few Fairy Gardens, a Fairy Circle under the willow tree branches, a Gnome Home, add some trolls, woodland Oak God faces here and there and we will be on our way to a Pagan Paradise! I am super excited about the cuteness!